“Dear body, I am sorry.
I’m sorry I bullied you.
I’m sorry for being selfish.
I’m sorry for cutting your wrists.
I’m sorry for all that I put you through.
I’m sorry for all the mean things I said about you.
I’m sorry I didn’t care for you the way you deserved.
I’m sorry for not ever listening to you.
I’m sorry I took you for granted.
I’m sorry I didn’t respect you.
I’m sorry for starving you.
And most importantly…I’m sorry for blaming you.
It has taken me years…
But I’ve FINALLY realized that you’re my life partner and companion.
When you needed me most was when I put my walls up and belittled you.
And I’ll NEVER forget the trauma I put you through.
But I swear I’ve learned my lesson, and I promise that I’m committed to honoring you.
♥ Loving you
♥ Caring for you
♥ Supporting you
♥ Listening to you
♥ Respecting you♥...
Why you need to 𝗯𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 the Masculine and Feminine Energy in business.
P.S. I’m referring to UNIVERSAL energies… not gender!
All genders have inside of them both the 𝗳𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗲 (yin) and 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 (yang) energy.
Did you know this?
For majority of my business, I was operating primarily in the masculine energy...
Constantly focusing on DOING and strategizing etc...
Until I hit burnout.
I grew up in a predominantly masculine energy household :
As a result, there was MINIMAL feminine energy in my home growing up.
No softness, no emotions, no allowing, and no nurturing.
As a result, I felt insecure about EVERYTHING in my life due to this imbalance of the masculine & feminine energy in my home life.
Which ultimately sabotaged me in many areas of my life — ESPECIALLY my business and relationships.
I ended up suppressing my emotions SO much that my mental health was at it’s absolute worst, resulting in depression and anxiety.
Wanna know what fucks with you in life and business?
Unhealed childhood wounds.
Like many people, *especially* my fellow entrepreneurs, coaches, and leaders…
It took a while for me to come to the conclusion that there was so much unresolved wounds/trauma from my childhood …
Which ended up manifesting into limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behaviours, and toxic patterns that affected *EVERY* area of my life, biz, and relationships.
Do you resonate with this?
And here’s the truth...
It took a LONG ass time for me to even admit that I had childhood trauma because my childhood “wasn’t as bad as others”.
But this denial and refusal to face my shadows and to bring up things that haven’t been healed…
Caused me to not only feel stuck and stagnant, and unable to move forward in my life + business…
But I was basically forced to take 6 months off and rely on my savings so that I could finally...
CHECK YO BATTERIES!
How are you feeling today?
1 Feelin’ GREEEEATT!
Keep doing what you’re doing my love! And keep practicing your self-care!!
2 Feelin’ good!!
This is amazing! How can you maintain where you’re currently at?
3 Feelin’ okay
How can you make your day a teeeeennsssy bit better?
Be kind to yourself today!!! How can you love on yourself a little more today?
5 I’m strugglin’
What are you struggling with most right now? And just focus on that area a little more today! And be patient and kind with yourself!
6 I’m depleted/empty
What’s draining you my love? Do you have boundaries? Can you stand firm in them?
Do just 1 thing today that can fill your cup up ♥ and give yourself grace!
Remember — SELF CARE ISNT SELFISH! So love on yourself extra hard today!
January 8th: The day I *finally* shared about my 8+ year battle
substance abuse ONLINE… and it was single-handedly one of the most nerve-wracking days of my life.
But also THE most liberating day of my life.
I finally felt like I could be *fully myself* without hiding such a huge part of my story.
I can proudly say I’ve finally overcome substance abuse after 8+ years.
I am officially 160 days sober from Cannabis…
After what was supposed to only be a 30-day hiatus to heal my relationship with it.
And I’ve been able to help HUUUNNNDREEDS of others just like me do the same through sharing my story on TikTok (this has been a blessing ).
And most recently...
I got asked to speak at a Youth Empowerment Summit workshop, sharing my story with substance abuse to 12-17 year olds.
My LITERAL dream is coming true
... Getting paid to speak on things I’m passionate about and impact the younger generation. (How is this real life?)
And N O N E of this...
I’d love to hear your thoughts at the end...
So I’m the queen of hoarding all my old school work, notes, photos, etc...
And I like to look over them every few years and go back down memory lane. (anybody else????)
Anywho — I came across my old school work, tests, class notes, etc from high school, and many thoughts raced through my mind...
1 I hated and sucked at math, so I almost failed it and had low marks... so my dad would yell at me ALL the time #HiTtauma
NONE of what I learned in “mandatory” math class actually helped me in life.
2 I cheated my way through science class because I hands down WOULD NOT have passed if I didn’t... so I always felt like an idiot.
Again... none of these “mandatory” classes actually helped me in the real life.
3 Like many others, I was conditioned to link my self-worth to my grades, and honestly, it felt pretty fucking shitty...
THE TOP 3 WAYS WE GIVE OUR PERSONAL POWER AWAY (and how to stop doing this!)
1 Checking your phone first thing in the morning
So you just woke up , rolled over and are now going through the backlog of whatsapp messages, Instagram DM’s and texts from people in your life and in your audience...
Wah-wow, wrong move dude!
The moment you check your phone you’re giving your power away to whoever is on the other end…
Take the first moments of your day to fully sink into your OWN thoughts and feelings without having them polluted by someone else’s.
2 Accept personal responsibility for your feelings
Quit blaming other people for how you feel!
The only person who is responsible for how you feel is YOU - it’s your job to manage your own emotions, not someone else’s.
The only way someone is going to cause you to feel bad is if you ALLOW them to.
Checkity check your reactions and accept the part you had to play in the...
As an entrepreneur, a coach a healer, a leader... it’s so crucial to be actually moving through your own healing process so you can 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗻 𝗘𝗫𝗔𝗠𝗣𝗟𝗘 of the work that you do.
Healing childhood AND ancestral 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀 that you’ve 𝘀𝘂𝗯𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀𝗹𝘆 slapped bandaids on...
Unpacking the 𝗯𝗮𝗴𝗴𝗮𝗴𝗲 you’ve carried with you your ENTIRE life.
Frankly, it’s really difficult to help others before you’ve worked through your own blocks, beliefs and traumas…
And it’s pretty hypocritical and inauthentic if you’re telling others to deal with their shit but you’re not addressing your own! *shots fired*
But, that DOESN’T mean that you need to be ‘perfect’ or ‘healed’ before you can help other people!!
There is no such thing as being ‘perfect’, and healing isn’t finite.
We are always healing, evolving and growing.
Your rawness and vulnerability...
How to let your deepest “pain” evolve into your greatest STRENGTHS
This is something that I never really understood until I really started plunging into the depths of my OWN personal development work, learning about the human psyche, the subconscious mind…
And healing from my own childhood wounds, ancestral trauma and the emotional baggage that I’d been carrying round for pretty much #forever.
We experience all of the contrast in life, so that we can bounce back:
more equipped to heal and lead others to transform and live exceptional lives.
When we go deep into our “pain” and 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗳𝗮𝗰𝗲, we are able to 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗺𝘂𝘁𝗲 𝗶𝘁 to pure 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵, 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 and 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
We become magnetic - to the wealth we wish to attract, to the dream clients, the relationship, and to all the desires we have in our life.
My 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽 𝗦𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 - 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗪𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗪𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 starting on Monday, October 12th is officially...
It’s frustrating to know and feel the 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹 you are capable of…
To have these 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝘀 and 𝘃𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 for who you want to be, how you want to show up and what you want to create out of your life and/or your business.
When instead of seeing THAT version of yourself…
You’re feeling blocked, stuck, unconfident and anxious.
You’re finding yourself:
not expressing what you really feel
worrying so much about what people think
... that you avoid showing up at all so as not to ruffle feathers.
Could you IMAGINE how differently you’d show up in your 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲… your 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀… or your 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 if you were able to:
Identify your 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳𝘀 and call yourself the F out (lovingly) as they’re happening
Activate aspects of your 𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲
Become more comfortable 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵
Run your life and/or biz from a 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗺, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 and...